Bev Jo writes,
“This is not about criticizing women who are mothers, but about exploring the institution of motherhood and how it keeps patriarchy going, because women claiming to be Feminists are still choosing motherhood.
Please have no illusions: If you choose to reproduce, you are being incredibly selfish and keeping patriarchy going. Patriarchy and the daily extinction of species would stop very soon if women just stopped reproducing. This is the one thing where each woman’s decision has a massive effect on the future.
Motherhood is one of the biggest cons and cults of patriarchy. Women complain endlessly about how terrible their lives are as mothers, even though most choose it (yes, most women know that if they choose to let men fuck them, pregnancy is likely). At the same time, mothers brag endlessly about being mothers and about their children, particularly sons. They openly pity women who can’t have children. Most participate wholeheartedly in the destructive myth that they are doing something wonderful for society and the earth, when the reality is that they are giving the earth a death sentence. At the very least, mothers do not have to add to the propaganda of motherhood pushed onto all girls and women, yet, in spite of their bitter complaining, most wholeheartedly pressure other females to also reproduce. Why?”
Put yourself and other women first. Demand that men examine their choice to impregnate women and insist on reproduction as part of serious relationships with women, why they insist on fathering children with their sperm and worship the continuation of their bloodline as an attempt at immortality – why gay men and sterile het couples choose surrogacy instead of adoption. Analyse why we pretend we really ‘love’ mothers when we don’t value women to begin with, when we see women only as potential mothers or as only good for having babies. Think about how much more political activism could be accomplished with less women having children, how many less orphans if couples instead chose to adopt.